Hope you’re all enjoying your evening and had a great weekend! Today’s post is one of the more serious ones I’ve written, but it’s actually about being happy and why it’s so important to spread positivity. I’m not here to preach hippy ‘positive vibes’ talk, because I really hate it when people try and force their beliefs on other people. I just thought it would be interesting to talk about what happiness means to me and why a simple smile and kind words can have a greater effect than you think.
My attitude on happiness and positivity has definitely changed since being in a relationship. I have been in a happy relationship with George for almost 7 years now, and although it may seem crazy to some people being in a relationship for the whole of your teens when you’re just starting to find out who you are as a person (I was 14 when we got together) I think the timing was perfect. I think if he hadn’t been there to make me happy and make me realise who I wanted to be, I would be very different now and not necessarily in a good way. He’s definitely changed my attitude to a lot of things for the better, and I couldn’t be more grateful.
Anyway, what I think is important in life is that, if you’re happy you should spread this feeling and help others to feel the same way. I also believe that dealing with being sad or depressed has a place within this, and being positive is a huge step towards overcoming depression. I have been depressed before, and I’m not ashamed to say it. There is such a stigma still attached to mental health issues, and it’s because of this that people feel scared to speak out because of what people might say. Some people still don’t see depression as a ‘real’ illness, which is ridiculous, because the effect it has on the sufferer is beyond mental and begins to affect their physical wellbeing.
When I was depressed during my first year of university, I never really spoke about it because I didn’t think I deserved to be depressed- I had great friends (albeit far away in other parts of the country), a loving boyfriend and family, and I was on the degree course that I had worked so hard for. However, being depressed isn’t selfish and everyone has the right to their own emotions, no matter how great other aspects of your life may seem. I hated living in a flat with people who treated me like dirt for no reason and excluded me, so I felt like I was living alone in my damp little uni room, so that consumed all the positive aspects of my life like a black hole.
What no one knows, is what situation a stranger is in, or even someone they think they know quite well. We can never assume we know everything about a person, or what they are dealing with in their life. This is why trying to be smiley and positive if you feel up to it (or even if you don’t, sometimes) can make a difference to the lives of everyone around you, including yourself. It’s not bottling it up if you try to ignore your pain (physical or emotional) for a minute, a day, or a week. Everyone wants to escape their life sometimes and pretend to be someone else, but this doesn’t mean you’re running away from your problems as long as you talk to someone at some point.
I am a naturally smiley person, and definitely more so in the past year or so. I have realised that wallowing in self-pity never helped me, or made anyone around me feel good, and I actually love making other people happy. I have also stopped dwelling over little things and making a big deal over something like breaking a glass or burning some food. It’s not the end of the world, and you have to learn to laugh about these things! Having a good laugh about something you’ve done wrong is far better than dwelling over it, and what’s the point? It’s happened now, so get over it and carry on! Also, if you’re upset about something, get it off your chest, talk it out, then tick it off your list and carry on with your life. There’s no need to drag it up again and again- you’re only hurting yourself more each time, and probably those you’re talking to about it. Humans can be selfless, but also selfish, and not in a nasty way. We don’t enjoy hearing other people’s problems repeatedly when we’ve tried to help them, because it feels like we’ve failed and forces us to dwell on their life rather than our own. It is always better to put on a smile and think about the present- it sounds cliché but it really doesn’t do to dwell on the past!
I don’t want to waffle on forever, as I’ll probably share more of my thoughts in another similar post in the future, so I’ll wrap it up for now. I know that maybe some of my followers won’t read this post because it’s not necessarily my usual style, but I want to change that. My blog is still growing, and writing posts on lifestyle and mental health issues has always been something I have wanted to do. In my opinion, it is so important to stay positive to keep yourself, and others, happy. I find working in customer service so fulfilling, and really admire people who work in care, because you have an opportunity to change someone’s day, or even their life. Making people happy makes me happy, so there’s no reason why we shouldn’t all…